I must make a confession...
When I started Healthinez I wanted to be all positive and bubbly and ambitious and... lots of things I now understand I can't be all of the time.
I mean, of course I'll still be positive, bubbly & ambitious but I don't HAVE to...ALL of the time.
For me that's a big difference! I'm stil in the process of getting to understand what it means to have fibromyalgia and most of all accepting that I have it. I've been fighting this diagnose from the moment I got it because I was so sure I could beat this because I'm a strong, independent, ambitious, life loving person! Unfortunately i got smacked down quit a lot in the meantime because of the fact I keep fighting against it.
So slowly I'm learning to accept it and that's what I want to talk about in this blogpost.
What is fibromyalgia? It's commonly know as a medical condition characterised by chronic widespread pain and a heightened pain response to pressure. Other symptoms include tiredness to a degree that normal activities are affected, sleep problems and troubles with memory. Some people also have restless legs syndrome, bowel or bladder problems, numbness and tingling and sensitivity to noise, lights or temperature.
There are many symptoms for fibromyalgia but not everyone always has them all or has the same as somebody else. Which makes it very difficult to get diagnosed. Unfortunately their are many doctors/ people in the world who still believe it's all "in the mind". And partially they are right, for some of the symptoms. I'll get into that later!
When I got diagnosed with fibromyalgia I felt so tired that sometimes I was afraid of not being able to hold my cup of coffee. It felt like I didn't have the strength for it. I never slept through the night and would wake up 3-4 times every night having difficulties falling asleep again. I would wake up in the morning feeling like I haven't slept in 3 days or I had just ran a marathon. No wonder I couldn't remember the smallest things anymore or bumped into everything at home, fall onto the wall when going up or down the stairs,...
I felt so miserable with the low quality of my life and the most horrible was that people kept telling me how good I looked! I know it's strange because everybody wants to hear they look good, no? But it was so difficult to hear people say how good I looked (and I really did look good ;-) ) while on the inside I felt like world war III had started taking over my body.
And that's where the "it's all in the mind" comes from. There is indeed a part in our brain that we need to get control over and when we do we will feel a bit of relieve in the fibro symptoms. Don't get me wrong...going to a psychologist isn't the answer to get rid of fibromyalgia. Or at least not the only answer!
I personally am more in favour to work with a coach instead of going to a psychologist because I believe that you need to look at your present life and not your past life to learn how to live with fibromyalgia. It's those bad habits we need to change. But before you can change them you have to realize they are there! And I think that's the most difficult part. Because once you know what isn't good for you you can start changing it. It's a slow and challenging process but I'm sure you can do it ;-)
Start by taking some time for yourself and reflect on your day. Write down what you did and how you felt while doing it. Physically and emotionally! This is really important because fibro pain is often linked to emotional blockages. However big or small. When you found out your stress marks or what emotional blockages you're dealing with you can start figuring out what to do with them.
I struggled many years with the grief of loosing a couple of people really close to me like my little niece, my father and my godmother. They were all taken away way too early and I never felt like I had the chance to process this in a way that worked for me. I just pushed the pain away thinking that it would vanish and I wouldn't have to deal with it.
In the meantime I learned that with dealing with your emotions or your thoughts comes clarification and inner peace. Once you understand you don't have to get all stressed out about certain situations your muscles will react to that new found zen state and stop fighting against you. Once you stop fighting yourself, the fibromyalgia will stop fighting with you.
I learned this and many other techniques through Theta Healing and meditation. I found this great woman who helps me getting my stress under control and keep dealing with my emotions. Being a high sensitive person this will always be a part of me and my daily life. But knowing that I can handle this and that I'm not alone in this gives me a great feeling of energy and inner peace and relieve of fibro symptoms ;-)
If you have any questions about fibromyalgia, theta healing or anything else, please just send me a message.
You can share this info with as many people you like. People who have fibro or not so we can raise more awareness about this chronic & often invisible illness.
Thanks for reading me and I'll see you on social media.
my name is Inez.
I'm a positive life enjoyer with fibromyalgia and I have to eat glutenfree, dairyfree, sugarfree and yeastfree.
I'm a health coach and here to help anyone who wants to grow in life on a physical, mental or emotional level.
My specialities are allergy free eating, fibromyalgia (or other chronic illnesses) and emotional well being.
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